When you have been away from your Twitter feed for a few hours, how do you look through the posts of others?
Do you quickly refresh and rush to the top skipping over all but the last few posts?
Do you slide up in a scanning fashion skipping chunks, but stopping periodically to check in to see what was happening a few hours ago.
Do you scroll through looking for certain people who you connect with frequently to see what they have been up to or shared. Do you check the feed for links and resources as you go more slowly and purposefully in your journey to the top of the feed?
I ask this because this morning it hit me that as I was scrolling through my Twitter feed that it is much like the way we approach life. I don't know that anyone falls into any one of the categories all the time, but it made me think about how we approach things in our lives.
Are we in such a hurry to reach our destination that we don't stop to reflect on the journey, to make time for the relationships in our lives? As I scanned through my feed to "Catch Up" to the most recent posts, I realized how many interactions, ideas, and potential connections I skipped over. I honestly couldn't even make out the images of the people in my PLN that I watched race by like the gravel on the side of the road as you are racing to somewhere you are already late to before you have even departed. And yet if you look up from the shoulder, you can see the trees distinctly and appreciate their beauty as you watch the birds leap from their branches and take flight.
What is so important that we are willing to zip past so many opportunities in our lives? What is the great reward, acknowledgement, trophy, prize that draws us to seek it out in such a driven manner that we forgo other aspects of life? I don't know if you have had these experiences, but I know I have found myself at times racing through life toward a temporary destination only to find the satisfaction of reaching that point in my life pale in comparison to what I realized I had missed out on. I could discuss all the examples of temporary destinations that I created in my life, but what is more important for me right now is the things I missed out on.
In my quest in life, I missed out on interactions with my own kids. I was busy with coaching, teaching and a thousand other "important" things that I didn't allow myself to be in the moment. This summer I have done better. I am in the improvement phase where I have allowed myself to put other things down to be present in their lives and their activities. I enjoy our interactions so much more fully when I am not preoccupied with what I "have to do!" We have gone to the movies, played in the pool, gone for walks to the park, and my oldest has even started going for runs with me. Which is another area of my life I had neglected for too long. I still hate running, but I can now at least tolerate my 3-4 mile runs. I just now have to be more consistent with my frequency.
I am reconnecting with my wife! For any of you who have kids, they create great joy, and fulfillment in your life, but when they arrive, they change your family dynamic. The conversations you had with your significant other are forever changed. You go from talking about; how beautiful they are, how much you love them, where you should go out on your date night, who you should invite to your next get together or couple's night out to; whose turn it is to change the poopy diaper, who needs to pick up the kids from daycare, who is making supper, whose turn to give baths, read a story, teach them how to write their name, learn shapes, and did I mention the word POOP is a constant topic of conversation at least the first few years of the child's life. So where is the romance, the spark, the intimacy? If you have the answer, shoot me an email Dr. Phil, inquiring minds want to know. As I said, I am reconnecting with my wife, our daughters are older and independent enough that she and I can have some moments in the day to have a semi-uninterrupted conversation. This summer we had almost a weekly date for lunch where we were kid free and able to really talk. It has been wonderful to take the time for US to work on our relationship.
In the past few weeks I have been able to get to know my PLN more deeply through online conversations, chats, DMs and face to face meetings. I am making plans with some to head to a baseball game in two weeks and am excited about having some adult fun.
I AM a work in progress. I AM a recovering Destination Enthusiast. I AM a Husband, Father, Friend, Son, Brother, Teacher, Colleague, Leader, Coach. I AM finally going to stop and live in the moment more often. I AM grateful for the blessings God has bestowed upon me and I AM going to cherish them more fully each and everyday.
Is life about the Destination or the Journey?
MAKE THE CHOICE TO LIVE FOR THE JOURNEY!